So, I wrote this a few days ago when I was really sad. Since then, the news has settled in and we aren’t SO completely devastated, just regular devastated. But I’ve been editing furiously to take this post from super-sad to semi-hopeful, to reflect the lack of UTTER devastation, again, just regular devastation, we feel. And I’m not sure if I’ve succeeded… But guys, there is this snowpocalypse coming to NYC and I am just too exhausted to change all the wording so here she is, boys. Here’s our sad news:
The cancer is still there.
Yup. Not the results we were hoping for.
We got the news last week when we got the results from BJ’s PET scan. And it was really sad. To put it eloquently.
As of now, we are doing ok. Pretty bummed, of course, but ok. Today was actually better than most because we had a really good appointment with our new doctor who is a Hodgkin’s Lymphoma specialist. She was nice and smart and an EXPERT on BJ’s EXACT disease. We heard about how treatable it is. We heard the hope in her voice.
So we had a really hopeful day.
But I know we’re not always so lucky. Sometimes we have I-just-want-to scream-and-stomp-but-can’t-because-NEIGHBORS kind of days or holy-shit-we-are-re-opening-the-cancer-box-all-over-again-and-we-thought-we-had-PUT-THAT-BOX-AWAY sort of days. But sometimes we have snowy, sappy, hopeful days where food tastes better and kisses are sweeter.
Guys, I’m getting off track. I’m gonna try to ask you guys to give us money (sort of) and I am just rambling too much and now I am way more stressed about writing this blog post than I am about cancer.
Let’s refocus. I’m sure you want some details. Here are some details:
That’s what we’re calling it. It doesn’t really have a name so we named it Phase 2. Well, I named it Phase 2 because I couldn’t remember its real name.
Anyways. Phase 2 will start in about 2 weeks and will take about 4 months to complete. YAY 4 MORE MONTHS OF CANCER!
Said no one ever.
Anyways. Phase 2 involves 4 more chemo-like treatments, which will happen every 3 weeks, and ends with the grand finale of a stem cell transplant, coming to a cancer patient near you around May.
Some good news: Phase 2 most likely won’t cause hair loss. YAY! A beard for BJ!
Some bad news: The stem cell transplant will require a 3-week stay in the hospital and up to 100 days of recovery time at home.
Some good news: Our doctor is fairly confident that this treatment will be very effective.
Some bad news: As always, there are no guarantees.
More bad news: We are pretty worried about BJ losing work and income during his long hospital stay and recovery time after the transplant. It will severely limit his ability to shoot events, and depending on timing, he may have to refund some clients who have weddings booked in May or June.
But some more good news: We have set up an online shop of BJ’s beautiful prints to help raise money to cover the time he will be out of work. We hope you will consider supporting us by buying one of his prints. It would help us out so much and HEY! You’d also get a beautiful photo print or canvas to hang on you wall! We got New York City skylines, beach scenes, and some Oregon photos, of course!
But guys, seriously, this is a no pressure zone. And we already feel wells of gratitude for how so many of you have already helped us. So please know we don’t expect you to contribute, not at all! Just consider this another option, another avenue for helping us out.
And with that said, would you consider sharing BJ’s shop with your friends? Can you blast twitter or facebook or call your mom? (I just feel like everybody’s moms always donate to these sort of things because moms are THE BEST aren’t they?) Anyways, please consider supporting us in this way. I know getting some extra income would set our (but mostly BJ’S) minds at ease as we transition into this scary and uncertain time. (He already feels guilty enough about having cancer. Now it’s cancer AND not working. Yes, BJ is crazy. Cancerous and crazy. EVERYONE knows cancer is not his fault. EVERYONE. But he still feels guilty. GET OVER IT BJ. IT’S NOT YOUR FAULT AND WE ALL LOVE YOU AND YOU WILL GET THROUGH THIS AND YOU ARE STRONG AND WE AREN’T REALLY ASKING FOR MONEY WE ARE JUST ASKING PEOPLE TO CONSIDER BUYING A PHOTO PRINT AND THAT IS DIFFERENT. SORT OF. )
Anyways, want to buy a picture?
Ok, enough of that. Time for some gratitude. More than anything, thank you all, you ALL, for your continued support, prayers, and messages of encouragement. It’s frustrating to say we need it all over again but I KNOW you guys will come through. And for that, we are SO grateful. Words cannot express.
Andrea & BJ
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