Find Your Life’s Purpose in 3 Simple Steps (Seriously)

Finding Your Life
I’m stealing information from the book Scary Close by Donald Miller, but HEY, HE stole it from Viktor Frankl’s book Man’s Search for Meaning.

So let me break it down a bit. Originally, the thought was that man’s deepest desire was pleasure. That idea was touted around by Freud. But Frankl came a long and put it out there that man’s deepest desire is for MEANING.

And man, don’t you agree with that? I mean deep down, doesn’t that ring true to you? We don’t want pleasure, I mean we WANT pleasure but what we WANT want is meaning.

It just makes sense to me. We want MEANING. That’s ALL WE WANT.

I mean, hell, that’s all that I want.

Well anyways, Frankl is a genius and I LOVE how Donald Miller his ideas up:

Frankl theorized a sense of meaning was existential, that it was something that passed through us not unlike the recognition of beauty or a feeling of gratitude. And he believed life could be structured in such a way people would experience meaning. His prescription to experience a deep sense of meaning, then, was remarkably pragmatic. He had three recommendations:

1. Have a project to work on, some reason to get out of bed in the morning and preferably something that serves other people.

2. Have a redemptive perspective on life’s challenges. That is, when something difficult happens, recognize the ways that difficulty also serves you.

3. Share your life with a person or people who love you unconditionally.


From Scary Close: Dropping the Act and Finding True Intimacy by Donald Miller

SO GUYS.

That was 3 Simple Steps to find your life’s purpose. Like, really.

So just to prove to you that it works, I wanted to share with you MY answers to the 3 steps. (And boy do I feel energized.)

So here is my life’s purpose, whittled down to 3 simple things:

1. Writing and Singing
2. Jesus, who brings a redemptive quality to everything I do
3. My husband and my future babies.
I wanted to elaborate a little on each thing:
1. Have a project to work on, some reason to get out of bed in the morning and preferably something that serves other people.

Writing and Singing

I’m owning my blogging now.  That is what I wake up to do (even if I don’t ACTUALLY do it regularly). And releasing my self from doing it professionaly has SET me free. I am truly blessed to be able to pursue my passions without having to consider generating income. My husband’s photography business covers our expenses and we’ve found a balance and a peace to the simpler life we have because I can stay home. Anyways, I blog just to blog, just to write and encourage others. THIS helps me wake up. It’s like an outreach, or ministry, even. This little blog is those lingering cups of coffee I wish I could take with every single person.

Singing is also my passion. It took me a LONG time to figure this out. I thought acting was my passion but NOPE it’s singing. I like singing because I get to be ME. And I like singing worship because I get to be me AND I get to commune with the God I believe in. I have the crazy, incredible, IMMENSE privilege of getting to sing in my church’s worship band and I absolutely LIVE for this. It bring meaning to my life. Purpose. Again, lucky me for having passions that don’t generate income… but I don’t care! These passions give me a deep sense of purpose and for that I am grateful.

2. Have a redemptive perspective on life’s challenges. That is, when something difficult happens, recognize the ways that difficulty also serves you.

Jesus, who brings a redemptive quality to everything I do

Jesus redeems all the darkness I face. I’ve wanted to die so many times. I’ve had my pits. But when I look at my life, my WHOLE life, I see redemption. It all just makes so much SENSE to me. Read Hebrews 11 from the Message translation of the Bible. That’s it for me. It makes sense in my bones. I am grateful for the glue of God that pieces meaning into my fragmented life.

3.  Share your life with a person or people who love you unconditionally.

My husband and my future babies.

And finally, family gives me meaning. Not that family is a cakewalk. Honestly, my extended family is full of crazies and I myself am one of the weirdest people I know. And did I mention my marriage is HARDEST thing in my life? It’s hard and messy, but my family gives me meaning, DEEP meaning. And we are looking for MEANING not pleasure, remember? SO yeah, marriage. It’s HARD (sorry to repeat myself but DANG marriage is hard.) But it keeps on getting redeemed over and over again (thank you, Father, Son, and Holy Spirit. It’s a big job.)

As for my babies, I’m crazy but I pray for my six little babies every day. They are IN me. I know them. I know their names. (I don’t know whether I’m getting too hippie-dippy for you or too Crazy Christian-y for you but I can’t deny it. I am a Mother and it is my Deepest Truth. I will have my babies and they are a huge part of my life, even now. And NOPE I’m not pregnant. We have no sperm, remember?)

 

SO guys, what’s YOUR entire life’s purpose in 3 simple steps? LIFE IS SO EASY, AMIRITE?????

But seriously, did the 3 steps make sense? You feeling this? I feel like a new woman– like these things TOTALLY clarified and simplified the core of my life. How do YOU feel?

 

Click here to follow my blog with Bloglovin.
Recent posts from Andrea Enright:

  • Emily

    So glad to see you blogging again! I love reading them. When you said that your blogs were like the “lingering cups of coffee you wish you could have” with each person. That made sense because every time I read a heartfelt post like this one I wish I could come over and have a cup of coffee with you. <3

  • Elizabeth Rondthaler Jolley

    Three easy steps, huh? My passion is also singing. I have been in choirs, tried a church choir, but now I just sing during my day, in the car, in the shower….it works for me. Redemptive quality for me comes from inside me, my inner strength, which I use daily to see the good in every part of my daily life (almost–I mean there are those few really obnoxious people that make it hard to see good for a few moments). Sharing–definitely my husband and my four children (and having raised four, I hope you get six very calm children, ’cause if you think marriage is hard, wait until you are anguishing over what you aren’t doing right for one or more of your kids!). So, I feel good, too. And I would love to continue sharing a cup of coffee with you, so I am glad you are committing to your writing. You share with all of your readers really well.